Wednesday, May 16, 2018


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ये हैं वो किन्नर जो एक रात की सुहागन बनने के बाद उजाड़ लेते हैं मांग

तमिलनाडु का कूवगम गांव किन्नरों का तीर्थ स्थल माना जाता है. हर साल यहां कूवगम फेस्टिवल मनाया जाता है. इस साल भी 2 मई को कूवगम फेस्टिवल खत्म हुआ.

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ये हैं वो किन्नर जो एक रात की सुहागन बनने के बाद उजाड़ लेते हैं मांग
तमिलनाडु का कूवगम गांव ट्रांसजेंडर्स का तीर्थ स्थल माना जाता है.
किन्‍नर एक ऐसा समाज है जिसके बारे में लोग बात करना भी पसंद नहीं करते. उनसे जुड़े कई ऐसे फैक्ट्स हैं जो शायद ही किसी को पता हों. तमिलनाडु का कूवगम गांव ट्रांसजेंडर्स का तीर्थ स्थल जाता है. हर साल यहां कूवगम फेस्टिवल मनाया जाता है. इस साल भी 2 मई को कूवगम फेस्टिवल खत्म हुआ. यहां देश भर के ट्रांसजेंडर्स पहुंचे थे. यहां कई तरह के इवेंट होते हैं. ये त्योहार 18 दिन तक चलता है. उत्सव के दौरान ट्रांसजेंडर्स हर रात अर्जुन के पुत्र अरावन की पूजा करने मंदिर जाते हैं.

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transgenders koovagam festival

18 दिन तक चलने वाले इस त्योहार में मिस कूवगम ब्यूटी कॉन्टेस्ट होता है. इस दिन महाभारत के उस अध्‍याय का मंचन किया जाता है जब भगवान कृष्ण ने मोहिनी का रूप धारण कर अर्जुन के बेटे अरावन से शादी की थी. त्योहार के आखिरी दिन सभी किन्‍नर अरावन से एक रात के लिए शादी करते हैं. अगले दिन अरावन की मूर्ति को कूवगम में घुमाया जाता है और नष्ट कर दिया जाता है.

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शादी के दिन सभी किन्‍नर अरावन के नाम का मंगलसूत्र धारण करते हैं और दुल्हन की तरह तैयार होते हैं. इस दिन जमकर नाच गाना होता है. अगले ही दिन इन्हें विधवा कर दिया जाता है. फिर मातम भी मनाया जाता है. मंगलसूत्र को हासिए से काट दिया जाता है और चूड़ियों को नारियल से तोड़ दिया जाता है.

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transgenders koovagam festival

मिस कूवगम कॉन्टेस्ट बिलकुल उसी तरह किया जाता है जैसे मिस इंडिया का कॉन्टेस्ट होता है. जीतने वाले किन्‍नर को बहुत इज्जत दी जाती है. इस त्योहार को देखने के लिए दूर-दराज से लोग आते हैं. किसी भी तरह के विवाद से बचने के लिए पुलिस की कड़ी सुरक्षा के बीच पूरे कार्यक्रम का आयोजन होता हे.

Friday, March 16, 2018

Some Random Quotes:

1.  When mind is weak, the situation becomes a problem. 
     When mind is balanced the situation becomes a 
     challenge. When mind is strong the situation becomes
     an opportunity. It's all mind game.


2.  A relation is not how long you have been together.
     Not how much you give or take.
     Not how many times you talk to each other.
     It's all about how much you value each other.


3.  Jyaada bhoj lekar chalne wale aksar dhoob jaate
     hein. Phir chahe woh abhimaan ka ho ya samaj ka ho.



4.  Patience and silence are two powerful energies.
     Patience makes you mentally strong.
     Silence makes you emotionally strong.


5.  Situations outside are uncertain. If we make our 
     state of mind dependent on them,
     then our reactions also become uncertain.


6.  Most of the problems of our life are created
     by tone of our voice.
     It's not what we say
     It depends on how we say.

Sunday, February 25, 2018

A rare conversation between *Ramkrishna Paramahansa* & *Swami Vivekananda*



*1. Swami Vivekanand*:- I can’t find free time. Life has become hectic.*Ramkrishna Paramahansa*:- Activity gets you busy. But productivity gets you free.


*2. Swami Vivekanand:-* Why has life become complicated now?*Ramkrishna Paramahansa:-* Stop analyzing life... It makes it complicated. Just live it.

*3. Swami Vivekanand*:- Why are we then constantly unhappy?*Ramkrishna Paramahansa:*- Worrying has become your habit. That’s why you are not happy.

*4. Swami Vivekanand:-* Why do good people always suffer?*Ramkrishna Paramahansa*:- Diamond cannot be polished without friction. Gold cannot be purified without fire. Good people go through trials, but don’t suffer.With that experience their life becomes better, not bitter.

*5. Swami Vivekanand:*- You mean to say such experience is useful?*Ramkrishna Paramahansa*:- Yes. In every term, Experience is a hard teacher. She gives the test first and the lessons later.

*6. Swami Vivekanand:-* Because of so many problems, we don’t know where we are heading…*Ramkrishna Paramahansa:-* If you look outside you will not know where you are heading. Look inside. Eyes provide sight. Heart provides the way.

*7. Swami Vivekanand:-* Does failure hurt more than moving in the right direction?*Ramkrishna Paramahansa:*- Success is a measure as decided by others. Satisfaction is a measure as decided by you.

*8. Swami Vivekanand:*- In tough times, how do you stay motivated?*Ramkrishna Paramahansa:*- Always look at how far you have come rather than how far you have to go. Always count your blessing, not what you are missing.

*9. Swami Vivekanand:-* What surprises you about people?*Ramkrishna Paramahansa:*- When they suffer they ask, "why me?" When they prosper, they never ask "Why me?"

*10. Swami Vivekanand:-* How can I get the best out of life?*Ramkrishna Paramahansa*:- Face your past without regret. Handle your present with confidence. Prepare for the future without fear.

*11. Swami Vivekanand:*- One last question. Sometimes I feel my prayers are not answered.*Ramkrishna Paramahansa:*- There are no unanswered prayers. Keep the faith and drop the fear. Life is a mystery to solve, not a problem to resolve. Trust me. Life is wonderful if you know how to live.

*Stay Happy Always!*

Thursday, February 22, 2018

STARS ; A Poetry Written by Bina.

 STARS

I looked out the window hoping to catch sunrise,

and was met with the fascinating sight of the stars falling from the skies

The moments passed as I  watched in wonder, my face aglow,

Until I realised that the stars in my yard were nothing but snow. 



 I wonder,

Is there a little bit of magic, a little bit of mystery?

Do your eyes hold the secrets of now and history?


I wonder,

Are there tales waiting in their depths; of magnificent seas and enchanted 


forests, of the breathtaking night and the beautiful day?

Do your eyes hold the promise of these and much more; or am I being foolish 


and led astray?


I wonder,

Will I be a part of the marvels I see in them; or will I be tormented and left 


behind

Will your mesmerizing eyes ever hold my story; the laughter, the tears, and 


the memories for another to find?


I wonder....

Friday, October 20, 2017

Newly popped up trends that are taking a toll on the true meaning of Diwali.






Transcending back in the 90s, it was a world of simple glory and tranquillity.  Everyone had a simple way of living and they gave utmost importance to their traditional roots. That was the time when Diwali was truly celebrated as a majestic and grand festival. With the thought of hefty bonuses, Diwali is no longer considered a festival. It has become a marketing gimmick for large end retailers and e-commerce websites. Today, people are flooded with innumerous Diwali offers and sales.

1. New dimension of gifting
Started as a simple trend of sending sweets to loved ones, gifting has a new meaning now. Sending chocolates and varied Turkish delights to relatives has changed the whole game. If it is a beloved relative, a colossal showpiece and lavish chocolates are staple gifts. There was a time when grandparents used to gift their children money and sweets, but now it is all about the latest smartphone and laptop.

2. Rangoli
Back in 90's, women were always excited to make rangoli. But now, after the 9-5 job, nobody has any energy left to create these art pieces. By putting an end to the laborious task of making rangoli, machine-made rangoli steals one’s heart away. Now, there are all types of LED and floating rangoli in the market. But nothing can beat the happiness and excitement, once the day-long process of handmade rangoli ceases.

3. Card Party
Uprooting from generic get together to card parties, the new generation has added a new aspect to the Diwali festivities. Pre-Diwali cards party sets the mood for Diwali. People flaunt about how busy they are due to these upcoming parties. For them, their religious and spiritual meaning of Diwali is at rest while they indulge in unnecessary money splurge.

4. Changing market scenarios
Earlier, every aspect of Diwali had a handcrafted touch to it. Today, there are all kinds of services available. Going out for Diwali dinners has replaced delicious food cooked at home. Even the sweets that were sent out to the relatives were made at home earlier. But the new savoury and delicacies available in the market have entered the loop. This has blown away the whole concept of handmade sweets and there is no personalised feeling attached to this form of gifting.

5. Digital Hypocrisy 
There is no end to the digital world, the more you explore it, the more you get addicted to this puddle. With the advent of numerous e-commerce websites and shopping portals, it has become easier for the working professionals to stay on top of their game. Instead of going to the market and witnessing all the festivities, they prefer to give wings to their requisites digitally. Trendy clothes, chic accessories, urban bags, comfortable shoes, etc. form a part of the online Diwali business.

6. Social Media 
Back in 1990’s, there was no way to share pictures of your Diwali decorations and beauteous rangolis. As you enter the technology-driven paradise, you ponder upon social media and its reach. People are more concerned about making their decorations picture-perfect. Flaunting your Rangoli, new clothes and accessories by clicking perfectly angled selfies and uploading them to Facebook and Instagram has reversed the whole ball game. With the new geo-location filters and festive stickers, Whatsapp and Snapchat have garnered all the Diwali traffic. Is this what we have become? Making rangoli and decorating our house for the sake of it or are we truly celebrating this festival with high spirits?

7. Festive Gatherings 
There was a time when Diwali gatherings had a different feel to it. It was about enjoying the laughter and fun with everyone. All relatives used to come together to celebrate this auspicious occasion of lights, but now sending a mere Whatsapp message is enough to maintain these ties. Festive gatherings today are all about flaunting your new clothes and jewellery. Following an individualistic approach, is it because of the dawn of nuclear families?

Yes, we know it is a fast-paced world and nothing is dynamic. Changes are a part of life and we should adapt to these changes. But amidst these drastic changes we seem to have lost ourselves. Are we still connected to our Indian culture or just racing against time for happiness? We leave you to ponder upon this thought and hope that you make the best choice this Diwali.

Sunday, July 02, 2017

Weekly Newspaper Jan 29, 1780 till March 23, 1782



The First Indian Owned and Edited Newspaper was issued in English in the year 1818


Hicky's Bengal Gazette or the Original Calcutta General Advertiser was an English language weekly newspaper published in Kolkata (then Calcutta), the capital of British India. It was the first newspaper printed in Asia, and was published for two years, before the East India Company seized the newspaper's types and printing press. Founded by James Augustus Hicky, a highly eccentric Irishman who had previously spent two years in jail for debt, the newspaper was a strong critic of the administration of the Governor General Warren Hastings. The newspaper was important for its provocative journalism well before its time and its fight for free expression in India.



Samachar Darpan (Bengaliসমাচার দর্পণ) was a Bengali weekly newspaper published by the Baptist Missionary Society and published in 23rd may 1818 from the Baptist Mission Press at Serampore in the first half of the 19th century.

The newspaper was published every Saturday and was edited by John Clark Marshman. Its price was 4 annas per copy. It contained news, both Indian and European, collected from various sources, particular from English newspapers. It also contained brief articles on various subjects. It carried some material of educational value which made it respected and popular among the educated people.


Monday, May 01, 2017

Thai Steam Fish Curry made by Neelu

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZvGbcKXZBLg


The recipe made by our Neelu for the lunch the "Thai Steam Fish Curry" on April 28th, 2017 . Please follow the above link. 

Friday, February 24, 2017

Maha Sivaratri

Maha Shivaratri Special: Why Milk Plays a Significant Role in This Festival

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Highlights
  • Maha Shivaratri or "the Great Night of Shiva- is a Hindu Festival"
  • This year the festival will be celebrated on 24th February
  • On Shivaratri various offerings are made to the Shivalingam
Hindus all over India and abroad are celebrating Maha Shivaratri today. Maha Shivaratri, literally translating to the 'Great night of Shiva' is celebrated with great fervor by the Hindu community. Celebrated on the 13th night and the 14th day of the month of Phalguna or Maagh according to Hindu calender, devotees wait for the auspicious day to appease Lord Shiva by praying, fasting and offering a bevy of fruits and flowers. The major Shiva temples like Mahakaleshwar temple in Ujjain or Somnath Temple in Gujarat witnesses an outpour of devotees often ranging in lakhs. Hindus also throng Varanasi to take a spiritualistic bath in the Ganges to redeem their sins and seek Lord Shiva's divine blessings.

In other parts of the country, people resort to other ways mentioned in holy scriptures to appease Lord Shiva. One such way is offering raw milk to a Shivlingam. The practice has been ingrained in almost every Hindu child who is a devotee of Lord Shiva, but what is the reason behind this age old practice?

On Shivaratri various offerings are made to the Shivalingam. As part of Maha Shivaratri’s Abhishekam, the Shiva linga, a signifier of Shiva’s abundant power is given a ritualistic bath. According to Shiva Purana on the eve of Maha Shivaratri, the devotees bathe the linga with milk, honey, ghee, curd, and sandalwood paste while chanting ‘Om Namaha Shivay’. Traditionally, bael leaves, which have to be a stalk with three leaves, are kept on top of the linga. Ber or jujube fruit is also given as a special offering to the God on this day.

(Drink to Your Health, Milk Alternatives Are Here to Stay)

 
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The pagan God is believed to be an ardent lover of milk, which brings all his devotees together on the auspicious occasion of Maha Shivaratri with their abundant offerings of milk and fruits for their beloved deity. While the objective of pouring milk on the linga is an act of purification of one’s soul, other legends indicate that it is offered for its soothing effects on the hot-tempered deity.

Religious Symbolism - Samudra Mathan


During the Samudra Mathan episode in Hindu Mythology, the milk-ocean was churned in an epic arrangement where all kinds of productive herbs and potions produced was to be divided between Devas and Asuras. But the churning also threw a pot of deadly poison Kalakatoom, which had the power to wipe out entire creation. Sensing an imminent destruction, the anxious devas ran to Lord Shiva for rescue and on their behest he took the divine responsibility of saving everyone, and swallowed all the poison. Goddess Parvati pressed his neck so that the poison does not reach his stomach. Thus, it stayed in his throat neither going up nor going down hence his popular name, Neelkantha - the one with a blue throat!.

(It is Important to Drink Milk: Myth or Fact?)

 
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The toxic level of the poison was enormous, hence to calm down its impact, the Devtas performed Ganga Abhishek on Lord Shiva. The Milk Abhishekam done by Shiva devotees is believed  to be a symbolic representation of the epic episode helmed by the Devtas to express their gratitude to the mighty Lord Shiva.

Devotees believe that the external Abhisheka will further their devotion and adoration for Lord Siva and eventually lead to internal Abhisheka with pure and abundant flow of love.

Scientific Reasons


The act of offering milk has opened a lot of contemporary debates which argue against the age-old practice, dubbing it as wastage of resources which could instead be put to use for the nourishment of underprivileged and needy. The believers have offered their own arguments to counter the claims underlining scientific basis of the practice.

The Shivlingams made of stone, metal or clay are located in the most positive and pious place in the temple, emanating tremendous amounts of positive energy. When milk, which is believed to be one of the best conductors of positive energies, is poured on to the lingam, the flow of energies begin to concentrate towards the lingam, and the devotee becomes the receiver of the outflow for his closest proximity to the lingam. Regular chanting of Om Namah Shivay
calms his mind, and tempers the tremendous energy that is emanated.

(How Milk Can Benefit Your Brain & Boost Memory)


Also, the lingam isn’t just a stone, it encompasses faith of multitudes across the world, therefore to preserve the lingam so that it doesn’t chip and break away like other stones, it needs a minimum amount of fat content. Various temple authorities claim to recycle the milk as charnamrita and prasadam to the devotees and poor children who throng the temples around Shivratri. 

Saturday, December 19, 2015

Sundar Pichai Google CEO.

Sundar Pichai on David McCullough

David McCullough’s “The Wright Brothers” is a story about two brothers and one incredible moment in American history. But it’s also a story that resonates with anyone who believes deeply in the power of technology to change lives—and the resistance some have to new innovations. In their time, people were excited about bicycles but also scared, among other things, that they would take kids too far from their parents. That fear paled in comparison to something as crazy as human flight. But the Wright Brothers were determined to do whatever it took to fly, even building their own cabin at remote Kitty Hawk, known for its winds and soft sand surfaces. The whole world celebrated once they showed the power of their invention. Today, there are so many other important innovations facing doubt and skepticism: Can technologies that reduce the levels of carbon dioxide from the atmosphere help us to reverse climate change? Can machine learning and artificial intelligence improve the ways we interact with the world around us? I strongly believe technology has a unique ability to do many things most people can’t even imagine right now.

Mr. Pichai is the CEO of Google.

Let’s not let fear defeat our values

I came to the US from India 22 years ago. I was fortunate enough to gain entry to a university here, and time after time, I saw that hard work opened other doors. I have built a career and a family and a life here. And I’ve felt as much a part of this country, as I felt growing up in India.
My experience is obviously not unique. It’s been said a million times that America is the “land of opportunity” — for millions of immigrants, it’s not an abstract notion, but a concrete description of what we find here. America provided access to opportunities that simply didn’t exist for many of us before we arrived.
And it’s not just about opportunity. The open-mindedness, tolerance, and acceptance of new Americans is one of the country’s greatest strengths and most defining characteristics. And that is no coincidence — America, after all, was and is a country of immigrants.
That is why it’s so disheartening to see the intolerant discourse playing out in the news these days — statements that our country would be a better place without the voices, ideas and the contributions of certain groups of people, based solely on where they come from, or their religion.
I walk around the campus where I work and see a vibrant mix of races and cultures. Every one of those people has a different voice … a different perspective … a different story to tell. All of that makes our company an exciting and special place to be, and allows us to do great things together. We are urgently working to become much more diverse, because it’s so important to our future success. I firmly believe that whether you’re building a company or leading a country, a diverse mix of voices and backgrounds and experiences leads to better discussions, better decisions, and better outcomes for everyone.
I debated whether to post this, because lately it seems that criticism of intolerance just gives more oxygen to this debate. But I feel we must speak out — particularly those of us who are not under attack. Everyone has the right to their views, but it’s also important that those who are less represented know that those are not the views of all.
Let’s not let fear defeat our values. We must support Muslim and other minority communities in the US and around the world.


Watching baby steps of drone delivery, courtesy of Google X (5 miles in 5 mins is the promise)

What motivated you to switch from metallergy, mathematics to computer science and the
2nd question: Did you ever feel incompetent or even bit insecure while working with people who were even more qualified than you were?
Answers by Google CEO:
I was always interested in technology. Actually I would encourage all of you in some point of your life have to work with people where you feel a bit insecure. That is essential because you are working with people who are better than you and who were pushing you right and always encourage you if you actually feel secure in what you do, what you know , it means you are doing something comfortable if you are not pushing yourself. So many times working with people or in a group am I doing enough, are these people much better than me and I think that is the inherent part of the learning.
Let yourself get insecure from time to time. Look for opportunities to re-invent yourself. Important to follow your dreams. Do something that excites you. This generation is less afraid of taking risks. Do things, not just learn them. You have to push yourself enough. Need education to have a hands on approach. You have to work with people who make you feel insecure. Because you are working with people better than you. If you are comfortable in what you do, then you are not pushing yourself, it is an inherent part of learning.
I remember when i started working, people discussing ideas, they would build on it. It a part of the culture.

Tuesday, November 17, 2015

Dark Ages.



After the fall of ancient Rome. Before the rebirth of Renaissance. Centuries of European history were swept under the rug. These are the dark ages.

                                         August 24, 410 A.D,

The Roman Empire falls...Dark Ages... Fall of Roman Empire. Rome has ever been conquered by a foreign enemy in the imperial period and was absolutely crushed. In Rome, power and glory were rapidly being replaced like corpses and cannibalism after so much sufferings. As early as 3rd century A.D. the empire had fallen into the hands of Syriza inept emperors. Diseases such as Small Pox and Measles entered. They selled Dog Meats to Goths who entered as refugees in Rome. Alleric the rebellion of that time died of fever in 410 shortly after his historic sacking of Rome. The glory of Rome gone forever and the Dark Ages have begun. There was no longer any emperor and the world was a smaller place.

The term dark ages has been used by lots of people. Famous italian stoller (Pete Rock) was comparing this period to the earlier classical period which he saw as leterally brilliant. He said by comparison the people at this period, the worst thing in darkness clean gloom you get up in the morning when you were hungry it looks pretty dark. It was just a notion that it was gloom or people were gloomy or so. For them the emperor of the dark ages was "Jesus Christ".

Chirstmas day 496 A.D. local bishops ends the prayer of thanks giving. This is the red letter day for the catholic church. France seen this as a beginning of france becoming a christian nation. It was a very strategic move. After the fall of the empire for the average man/citizen the life was very very difficult but christianity offered some hope was very attractive. Clovis (emperor) came. He converted to catholiscism and started ruling.Clovis died for unknown cause. Thereafter Justinian emperor also ruled for sometime.

Plague arrived in Constantinople via cargo ship. It was carried by infected flees which hit on the rats. It was a purulent pandamics in history.Justinian was among them who was infected. 15 million people died of these spreaded disease. There was no place to bury the people. In 542 A.D. the autumn chill brought still to plague in constantinople. In 548 A.D. the empress Theodora died of cancer. She was the wife of emperor Justinian. Justinian outlived her by 17 years. His dream of reuniting Rome died with him. After Justinian's death Byzantine empire fallen. Western europe started getting darker. Last vestiges of roman control has become a faded history as disease and warfare claimed countless thousands.

Monasteries became the wealthiest institution among  europe during the dark ages. Monks were the guardians of the literary culture during the dark ages. Many people who were going to these monasteries came from a wealthy family. The Monks poisoned the benedict's drinks. They were making a plot to kill the benedict. Benedict left Abby and set a new monastry in the south east of Rome. He escaped the death twice. The monks who stayed in the monasteries were told to follow the rules of benedict. The nuns who were staying in the monasteries were trying to escape from the walls because they were unhappy there. 600 years after christ crucification his church has become dominant cultural force in europe. Then came Morrish (Moors) armies crossed France and came General Abdul-Rehman another army man but was stuck down by another infantry. Overnight the Moors withdrew and made a beeline self respect.

It was the stunning victory of the Martel, the nick name was "Charles Hammer". When the empire was falling down charles became the saviour of christianity. Over decades charles martel's descendents transform his christian kingdom into an empire and one of them would even become powerful enought to assume the title Emperor abroad. That grandson of charles hammer would be remembered as the father of europe. His name was charlemagne and he was the greatest king of the dark ages. The most powerful emperor of the ancient rome was the king "Charlemagne" would be remembered as one of the most illuminating figures. He gave birth again to the education, he gave the economic importance of the empire. When charlemagne's father died the frankish property was divided among charlemagne and his brother carloman. Charlemagne was more passionate about women. He started to read and learn when he was grown up. He never learned to write. He ruled about 14 years.

By the middle of 19th century the people with north western europe heading towards the scene, more bad fortunes, those families torn apart by the aggression, ruthless conquerers were confronted with severe economic depression, religious persecution and the devastation of rampant disease. After the last irking attacks europe was teeming with unemployed soldiers, trained killers and found it hard to hang up their source.

Starting from 1000 years we see the growth in population in the western europe. If you look at the archeology of the medieval town turned eleven to twelth  centuries, the 13th century it was exactly the opposite of what happened during that last message into their own empire. Europe was one of the productive and creative periods of its entire history, things like the great gothic cathedrels the universities, the law courts and legal systems all those were created in the 12th and 13th centuries. So long period of this darkness there came a tremendous explosion really brilliant cultural achievements. There were political chaos, there were injustices. But what's most admirable and human about the people left during the so called dark ages is the efforts they made sometime successful and sometimes not to terminate themselves in the way that mattered most to them before god. 

Tuesday, November 03, 2015

Jon O’Brien: “The Catholic Church has an obsession with sexuality”

US-based Catholics for Choice chief criticizes the Vatican’s position on women and gays


Jon O’Brien believes that the Catholic Church’s hierarchy is drawing further away from its followers and social reality – above all when it comes to sexual and reproductive rights.
The 50-year-old Irish Catholic, who is president of the US organizationCatholics for Choice, believes in a secular state, and has severely criticized the Vatican for its treatment of women andhomosexuals.
Question. Do you think Catholic Church officials are successfully taking on the challenge of adapting to the diversity of their believers in today’s society?
Answer. There was a great theologian who once said: “Catholicism is defined by unity and diversity.” In other words, this is not a monolithic Church. When I go to Mass on Sunday and I look around me, I see over there two gay men who’ve been in a relationship for a long time. Over on my right hand side I see two gay women who’ve adopted a child. There is also a couple who have divorced and been remarried. All of us are using birth-control methods, and many women have had abortions. This is the reality of the Catholic Church today. The Church is not a building somewhere in Rome; it’s not a building in Madrid. The Church is all of the people and the people as we are manifesting ourselves today have a very different sexual aspect than what the hierarchy has emphasized.
Q. Do its doctrines correspond to reality?
A. It seemed as though the last two papacies, John Paul II and Pope Benedict, were very focused on the pelvic zone, very focused on our genitalia, and very focused on adherence to a rule. No matter where you go, if you ask Catholics what they believe, if you ask Catholics what they do, it’s very different than what they do in the hierarchy. I think that’s the reality of the Church. My biggest problem is that they have failed us as Catholics to follow them. And they do not represent, I would argue, we Catholic people – they represent themselves. The Bishops now go to Congress in the United States, they go to the UN, and they go to the government in Spain, and they try to convince them to turn their theology into law that doesn’t represent us.
Q. Has the Catholic hierarchy grown further from the flock?
A. I think they are representing a failed way of thinking. There are various reasons why the Catholic hierarchy ended up with many failures in sexual ethics. Sometimes it was good intention that they wanted to be closer to God, so the idea was that those who are celibate are closer to God. They had, I think, good intentions. But the road to hell is paved with good intentions. I think that reality today is that if you stop women from having access to safe abortions, they would have unsafe abortions. And if you stop people from gaining access to contraceptives, they can’t avoid an unplanned pregnancy. These are the realities: the reality is that marriages break down, the reality is that people are gay that are Catholic. So we have to deal with the real world. The real world tells us that there’s something that has very much failed the bishops’ view, and certainly the bishops are entitled to hold their view.
Q. Despite the social advances and more voices like yours among the flock that are speaking out, the Catholic Church has not changed its position on abortion, birth control or homosexuality.
A. I think that most Catholics have moved on in our ordinary lives. I still go to Mass on Sunday, so do women who have had abortions and used contraceptives. We don’t feel guilty, we know that as good Catholics we can make a decision based on our conscience because this is not just about feeling good. At the very center of Catholic teaching is that not only should you follow your conscience, but you “must” actually follow your conscience. And I think that the people who use contraceptives, the people who have abortions, people who are gay and lesbian, are following their conscience. It’s between them and God.
Q. What should be the relationship between Church and State?
A. Maybe our bishops in Spain and Portugal and Ireland should stop going to politicians and saying that this is the law I want you to enact. It’s inappropriate. Religious actors can have their view but I think that a truly secular state – and that I believe the secular state is not anti-religion – is neutral and balanced. I think it gives great protection to religious people because I don’t get someone else’s religion being imposed upon me as a Catholic and I don’t get to impose my religion on other people of a different faith or on non-believers. I think that those are the type of laws that are most just and most fair.
Q. Do you believe the Catholic hierarchy has intervened too much in politics of state?
A. Yes, I think there’s no doubt about it. These men go on to lobby politicians to turn their beliefs into law when they don’t even have Catholic followers. You see this around the world, you see it time and time again – the fight against gay marriage, the fight against the legal right to abortion. If you look at Poland, if you look at Spain, if you look at Ireland, the fight against the equal rights of citizens sadly is very often led like hierarchy in my Church. And I think that’s why Catholics really have to do something, though it is not easy. If you see someone doing something wrong you have to say something. And I think we see the hierarchy in our Church doing different things – trying to pressure politicians to legislate for themselves – and I think we have to stand up and say that this is the wrong way for the hierarchy and the Church to behave. And tell people that when they speak, they don’t speak for all of us.
Q. Some people have described Pope Francis as too political.
A. I think that there is a part of this pope that is very genuine. I think he really is genuinely trying to be more pastoral than political as to when other popes were trying to get the government to do this, do that. I think he cares about the human condition. I think that is a really welcoming thing because we too often have had a political Catholic Church and not a pastoral Church. I am not trying to say that he agrees with me on these things but he is being much more loving and caring, and not lecturing as much as his predecessors. The pope is Argentinean but I don’t think he is a Che Guevara – he is not Che Guevara, but maybe more like Gorbachev when he had something to say.
Q. Has he opened a channel of communication and changes in the Church?
A. He presented the idea that people should be able to have a conversation about what type of society they want. Who knows whether the bishops under Pope Francis will be braver and if they will actually admit that there are many things in our Church that are unfair and unjust. One of them being the way that women are treated in the Church. They are not treated with the real respect and dignity that comes with women being equal to men.
Q. Do you think gender inequality is one of the major problems in the Church?
A. The idea that you have a corporation, for example Apple, saying tomorrow, we’re not going to have any woman in senior management. It would be crazy for a business to do that or for any other institution. I think it’s crazy for the Church, too. We exclude women at the cost of the Church not being as smart as it could be and should be. So I think when the bishops meet together [they should discuss] maybe the issues of women, about women’s health, women’s lives, women’s meaningful position within the Church – a position that is rightfully theirs and which is half of the church.
Q. What do you think about a priest coming out in public as gay and at the same time admitting to having a boyfriend?
A. One of the worst-kept secrets in the Catholic Church is that a lot of the clergy are gay. Certainly, I would welcome a more enlightened view of gay people in my Church, but we, the Catholic faithful, would also welcome more truth about divorce and remarriage, about women who have abortions, and about couples that use contraceptives. There are a myriad of issues queuing up to be addressed. With its failure to talk about the real world, the Catholic hierarchy’s sins of omission extend way beyond a gay priest in the Vatican who could no longer live in hypocrisy and lies. The list goes to the very heart of Catholic teaching on issues connected with the pelvic zone. We need a complete overhaul if social justice is to be done – not just gay priests talking about gay priests.

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